You are welcome to offer a reward if your child fills the chart, however description encouragement such as;
- ‘That was lovely when you shared your toy with your brother, you made him happy”,
- “Thanks for using your inside voice, I know it is hard when you are excited”
- “Wow, I love how nicely you guys are playing lego together”
- “That was excellent manners when you asked for a drink”
Offering positive attention and encouragement is helps to ‘teach’ our child, and is more effective than a generic ‘good job’ and helps them to also not be focused on doing things just for our approval or reward.
Descriptive encouragement helps our child to feel good about themselves, it creates SELF-esteem.